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polygeny Abuse

Date: 26 Jul 2008, 1:39 pm / Mood: blah


As Salaamu Alaikum All



http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=67u9O8ESyAQ



Well I was just watch a youtube clip on Polygeny or Polygemy in Islam.



I'm not against it what I am agaist it brother wanted a 2nd and 3rd wife but don't have the means to care for them... What I don't believe in is brother singing HALF of the Sunnah ( I can have 4 wives its the Sunnah) but forgetting the the other half which is if you (a man) are able to treat them equally...  I swear they don't like this part...or just want to push it all the way in the back... *rolling my eyes*



A Man can have up to 4 wives if he can provide for them. And if the first wife is ok with it... but if it's going to bring harm on ones present marriage then it's best to keep to one.



Now the first wife doesn't have to be over joyed about it but she's "Ok" with him taking on a second wife.



What Is Poygeny Abuse?



Simple- Is a muslim man having 2 wives but the Gov't is helping one...



News Flash- if the gov't is helping a women out and you can not... then you shouldn't marry her... Because you can't replace the aid that she's getting from the Gov't.



2. Both wives living in an apartment complex- Meaning the husband can't afford to put them either in One big house ( if they agree to it) nor give them each a house of their own.



3. Secret Polygeny-



News Flash- It doesn't exist.. in order for a marriage to be known witnesses have to be present... therefore if one engage in a "secret marriage"  it's not really a Secret Allah (SWT) knows of it... and those that attend the nikah... Who care if everyone else doesn't know... but the main important people does.  Or it could be the first wife doesn't know... that in the end is Bad Adhab- It's like having an Affair... why would any women want to be part of an affair like relationship?



I remember reading this Stupid profile from some muslim brother over in Italy... He stated he's looking for a co-wife but he cannot financial help her... he won't be around that much and it wouldn't be worldly known- Now it made me think yet again... what women in this day and time would subject herself to be married to a man that CAN NOT SUPPORT HER



The Prophet (SAW) said if you are financially unable to wed then you must Fast.



He never said make up some stipulations and then get married.



Now for me- I welcome such a marriage as long as it's according to the sunnah of the Prophet (SAW) - The brother can financially, Spiritually and emotionally  treat both wives equally.



:-)



 



Ma Salaama  



niqaabi12 (31 Jul 2008, 9:19 am):
Bismillah Ar Rahman Ar Raheem

Assalaamu alaikum wa rahmathullah wa barakatuh

Love what you say and admire your courage for saying it.  Polygyny (No idea what the western spelling is) is Sunnah but must be according to the conditions laid down so clearly in the Noble Quran.  Alhamdulillah I have two friends in plural marriages and both are very happy BECAUSE their husbands treat them and their fellow wives fairly and equally, and provide for them extremely well.  

But it has bad name here because some brothers use it to get almost slave labour and even let their wives work while they stay in the cafes drinking and talking with their friends.   

Mashallah it is good that you should speak so openly like this.  You have my backing conmpletely.

Walaikum salaam from your sister in Islam,  Aliyah


the_supreme_angel (26 Jul 2008, 3:11 pm):

Interesting blog Masha'Allah..bound to raise a few eyebrows from somem brothers lol...... for the reminder.

Fi Amanillah


fearlessjihad79 (26 Jul 2008, 2:51 pm):
It Is Important To Be Aware But Why Dwell On The Missdeeds Of Brothers When Ther Are So Many Spiritualy Fulfilling Things To Talk About

shifa123 (25 Jul 2008, 12:05 am):
jazake Allah khair sis

truelover_4ever (24 Jul 2008, 11:26 pm):
nicely said ukhit i agree with you.

and its funny that brothers talk about sunnah but forget the fardh :P