princessaisha90
Urgent Questions
Date: 10 Jul 2008, 10:51 pm / Mood: confused
I want to ask 2 questions !
I started my new job at the Marshal's office on Monday. I help the Marshal's stamp, mail, and open envepoles.. Complete letters, etc ... or Anything they need help with !
It is a small office with like about 7 guys working all between ages 40-50 , and one college girl ... and me (New)
Everyday i meet a new Marshal, and when they see me .. they open their hands so i can shake it ... and they introduce themselves ...Umm about shaking hands.. I can't refuse .. that will be too rude.. i have already shaked like 5 of them not becoz i wanted to ... Just becoz i couldn't turn away ... wat should do next time it happens to me ??
The other question ... ??
The first day, i asked one of the guys if I can pray .. I actually did.. it is an open area ... there are no rooms... and everyone stares .. i feel soo uncomfrotable. i can't even concentrate! Even when noone is staring ... i still feel uncomfortable !
Dhur is like at 1:30-1:45... I start my job at 1 ... get off like 4 .... Can i make my prayer after 4 ... asr is about 5:45 !
How about qiblah ?? i dont know where it is ... At the job i Just Chose the first direction i felt comfortable with !
ummmm???
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Farouqnimer
(11 Jul 2008, 2:16 am):
1. As for thuhr time, you have until just before 'asr, so yes, you can definitely pray at 4.
2. It is necessary to pray in the direction of the qiblah. Download the software www.islamicfinder.org for the free software.
3. As for the handshake, you already placed yourself in trouble because men now assume that you are ok with it. Still, next time don't shake hands, refuse in a polite way.
princessaisha90
(11 Jul 2008, 12:33 am):
Thank you alll for ur answers ... I appreciate you . Jazaakalaahu Khairan 
OmarAdil
(11 Jul 2008, 12:31 am):
salam
if you cant find some place private to pray, I think it's better if you leave it until you leave work and go home, because:
-it make you uncomfortable, and you cant concentrate when your praying.
-it better for women to pray in their home.
-when praying in open area where everyone can see you, when you do Sojud or Roku'e some part of your body, or the shape of the body can be seen by stranger. an it bad some people have no respect for other and can do bad think; like taking photo or have...........
IN the matter with shaking hand It's not allaowed to girl to have contact with stranger aven eye contacte, so that they dont assume other think ( I now some friend that when a girl look at him or make a smile, hr think that she gave him a signe or that she a interst in him )
you need to found a way to avoid shaking hand, without offending the others.( make a sign " SORRY. I dont shake hand with boys" JOK
).
Ask some working sisters,
wa salam
if you cant find some place private to pray, I think it's better if you leave it until you leave work and go home, because:
-it make you uncomfortable, and you cant concentrate when your praying.
-it better for women to pray in their home.
-when praying in open area where everyone can see you, when you do Sojud or Roku'e some part of your body, or the shape of the body can be seen by stranger. an it bad some people have no respect for other and can do bad think; like taking photo or have...........
IN the matter with shaking hand It's not allaowed to girl to have contact with stranger aven eye contacte, so that they dont assume other think ( I now some friend that when a girl look at him or make a smile, hr think that she gave him a signe or that she a interst in him )
you need to found a way to avoid shaking hand, without offending the others.( make a sign " SORRY. I dont shake hand with boys" JOK
). Ask some working sisters,
wa salam
Maj
(10 Jul 2008, 11:28 pm):
salams u can offer duhar right upto the beginning time of asar. so u can read after u finish work up to the beginnning time of asar prayer.
Don't shake hands just nod to them. My shikh told us his experience when he had to meet with an insurnce lady or something. She offered to shake his hand but he explained politely the reasons why he could not and she understood.
At work tody a lady came to back to work after being off sick with cancer. She came to see us and even hugged my colleague, I realising what was going to happen next just stood up t my desk nd sid welcome back Vnessa, nice to see you back n sat down..no hand shking hug etc.
when ever u dont know the qiblah if u try to wok it out and you get it wrong yr salah will count. if u just pray without working it out it wont count. Try invest in compass for when u will be away from home or make a note of where the sun is at a paticular time eg 12 noon in relation to the qiblah.
Don't shake hands just nod to them. My shikh told us his experience when he had to meet with an insurnce lady or something. She offered to shake his hand but he explained politely the reasons why he could not and she understood.
At work tody a lady came to back to work after being off sick with cancer. She came to see us and even hugged my colleague, I realising what was going to happen next just stood up t my desk nd sid welcome back Vnessa, nice to see you back n sat down..no hand shking hug etc.
when ever u dont know the qiblah if u try to wok it out and you get it wrong yr salah will count. if u just pray without working it out it wont count. Try invest in compass for when u will be away from home or make a note of where the sun is at a paticular time eg 12 noon in relation to the qiblah.
ja_tu_miluju
(10 Jul 2008, 11:28 pm):
Yes the corner would probably be your best place. Though it is your own choice as to whether you would like to do that, or wait until you arrive at home.
princessaisha90
(10 Jul 2008, 11:08 pm):
The kitchen area is apart of the office... The only room is the bathroom. everything else is one connected place !
princessaisha90
(10 Jul 2008, 11:05 pm):
You can't go outside! Outside is full of people !
It is a huge tall building in Downtown, and other rooms are other court officess !
It is a huge tall building in Downtown, and other rooms are other court officess !
ja_tu_miluju
(10 Jul 2008, 10:57 pm):
Firstly, just tell them that your religion does not allow you to shake hands with men, and tell them the reason as to why.
With prayer, I suggest trying to go outside if you can, you'd be able to concentrate better. Also, ask someone which direction is North, and pray whichever direction you need to pray...
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With prayer, I suggest trying to go outside if you can, you'd be able to concentrate better. Also, ask someone which direction is North, and pray whichever direction you need to pray...
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W E
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What Omar Adil said about not having eye contact at all is not true. Just because his friend is like that, this doesn't make a ruling in Islam. You are allowed to have eye contact, but not stare and not look at his 'awra or look lustfully. If the man was too cute, then don't look.
When I first came from the Arab world, I used to feel attracted to almost any girl smiling to me, maybe because I had no experience dealing with women. Now, this is gone.