mayyida_nur

10 TIPS FOR BEING SUCCESFUL HUSBAND

Date: 28 Apr 2008, 4:16 pm / Mood: high-Iman



1) Just like a husband wants his wife to look nice for him, she wants her husband to appear attractive for her too. She will really appreciate it when you make an effort just for her. It shows her you are thinking of her needs and that you have a desire to please her.


 2) Do something spontaneous for her and that doesn't just mean giving her an expensive gift! It could be a letter or simply leaving an affectionate memo on the fridge for her to find - although the occasional bunch of flowers might be appreciated. But if you're really stuck for ideas then ask her what was the last thing you did that madeher happy. Then go and do it again!


 3) Nobody is perfect. Don't dwell on the things you don't like about her, but rather concentrate on the things you like about her. Allah (swt) says; "live with them in kindness; even if you dislike them, perhaps you dislike something in which God has place much good." [TMQ An Nisa 4: 19]


 4) Take time out to speak to her and to 5o things together. Always look and listen to her when she is talking to you. It's important to spend quality time together - doing something that she wants to do. The Messenger (saw) would race his wife Aisha(ra) in the desert.


 5) The Messenger (saw) had nicknames for his wives, ones that they loved. Call your wife by the most endearing names, and avoid using names that hurt her feelings.


 6) Although it is her responsibility to cook, clean and tend to your needs this doesn't mean your thanks or appreciation is not expected. A sign or word of appreciation and encouragement from you will go a long way. It will put a smile on her face, motivating her in her duties and reminding her that in pleasing you she has pleased Allah (swt).


7) Remember to smile and be affectionate towards her often and remind her of how much you love her. It's not always enough to know it sometimes she may need to hear it from you. Affection strengthens the bond between the two of you and prevents Shaitaan from coming between you. The Messenger (saw) would kiss his wife even if he was fasting.


8 ) Just because you are the Amir (leader) doesn't mean you can't take your wife's advice or opinion on day to day matters. The skill of being a good leader does not always lie in just making'the decisions but it is also the ability to listen to the needs and views of those Allah (swt) has given you charge over.


9) Women are prone to emotions and mood swings - that is the way Allah has created them. So don't ridicule or look down at her weakness but rather show mercy. And don't ignore her when she is upset but rather show tenderness. The Messenger (saw) set the example for us in an incident when his wife Safiyyah (ra) was crying because, as she said, he had put her on a slow camel. He wiped her tears, comforted her and brought her another camel.


10) The Messenger (saw) said; “The best of ' you are those who treat their families in the best way. And I am the best amongst you to my family." [Tirmithi].[/color]


And once again: your wife is your best friend, and your girlfriend. Share everything with her. Remember she is your garment and you are her garment, so hide her faults and mistakes. Learn to forgive her.Spend lots of time praying to Allah swt. Do fast often even if it is not Ramadan. Fasting brings patience and taqwah. Lead her in the prayer. There is nothing better than praying together. Remember Allah, so that Allah remembers you.
May Allah bless us and guide us all. Ameen
~taken from Muslimz_Sis Group


 



Abu_Maryam (28 Apr 2008, 5:07 pm):
Baarakallaahu feek

truelover_4ever (28 Apr 2008, 4:23 pm):
lol ya true

mayyida_nur (28 Apr 2008, 4:21 pm):
afwan....not only for husband, wife also can take note

truelover_4ever (28 Apr 2008, 4:15 pm):
mashallah so true, jazakallah khair for sharing will add it to the list