assalamu aliakum warahmatuallahi wabrkt .

I like to begin by thanking everyone that took the time to reply to my blog. mashallah beautiful advices and word of encouragement! subhanallah i am touched by most your words, inspired by the stories that has been shared..Jazak allah qhaire and may allah talla reward you ALL a place in JANNAH TUL FERIDOWS..thank you again and again indeed you all have been helpful!!

fi aminallah

Aliyah islam

Assalaamu Alaykum Sister.

In regards to your fears and habits coming from a male perspective, I would say that you must first know yourself before anything else. The problem in and outside the deen is that there are really good guys out there that would treat a woman like a queen and not believe in traditional roles but they are hiding because they are tired of being stepped on and taken advantage of. There are alot of guys that believe in true love and destiny and finding that special someone that will captivate their heart and whisper into their soul. I hope the best to you sister on your journey...try looking at the "nerds".

sister u gt alot of spelling mistakes... anyway u shudnt realli wish on someone to approach you..

they only will in the wil of Allah.... so anyway

 

You're not serious, are you, "Ts707"? I hope not, considering your own spelling errors. You should look at yourself before criticizing others.

i still remember about 6 years a go before my sister married, my mom asking my bro in law "why u want to married my daugher?" and he said "this is from Allah, thats all i can say"

so inspiring, i wish me too.

sister u gt alot of spelling mistakes... anyway u shudnt realli wish on someone to approach you..

they only will in the wil of Allah.... so anyway

next time when they approach you just say YES!

lol

As salaamu alaikum wa Rahmat Allah,

The choice of a husband is the most crucial decision you will make in your life. Your husband is your Jennah or your Jehennam. You need to have all those expectations and you need to follow your instincts. If there is something in the brother lacking from your perspective, it may result in you not wanting to obey him, not being convinced by him, not having trust that he will be a good father, husband, etc. While you will never find someone who is perfect, when the right person for you comes along, YOU WILL KNOW. There is no question that Istikhara is the key to it all. You pray to Allah and wait for the signs, watch the events, listen to your mind and heart. If there is anything saying "no", then that's your sign.

I waited until I was 36 to get married (don't follow my example, lol!) but by then I knew what I wanted and didn't want in a man. Some dazzling prospects were around at the time but signs kept popping up that they weren't right. They didn't fit MY bill. When I met my husband and prayed about it, I KNEW it was right. The clear signs from Allah kept coming right up to the minute I married him, and I am grateful every day for the growth our marriage has brought me in Islam. Whatever trials arise, we come out better for them and it truly is a blessing.

Trust in Allah and have patience; it will come in sha'Allah.  May your husband be the one who makes you blossom into a flower Allah, subhaana wa taala, will delight in - ameen.

Why the afraid?

Sounds like fun to me... >.>

You are smart, marriage is a serious matter, if you back up it is because Allah is warning you away from the brother. Wait and do not rush into marriage.

wa'sallam
I agree with Haya_Iman

I dont get why ppl are so scared, Ive heard this from a couple of my friends. Just pick a nice guy who is into the deen and Insha'allah the rest will be fine. There is fitnah and tests but thats just life...as long as it is a nice brother and not those macho Im the man types...cant stand them.

Wa aliekum as salam warahmatu Allahi wabarakatahu ,



Mashallah @ Haya_Iman's comment. Totally agree Alhamdulilah. :]

If someone is giving you value and purpose u then y are ignoring him and giving value to fals things
if he is not expecting more from you hen y u think alot over your expectations "Amazing"

perhaps you are considering reasons for marriage or divorce for the wrong motivation- when you accept the kuffar ideal that marriage has to be perfect, full of materialism, and for undying love, than no one is going to fit the bill. But when you consider the Islamic perspective of marriage as being to fulfill your deen, guard your modesty, help you raise children into the ummah, and for stability, then more and more brothers will seem appealing. Just look for a brother who is knowledgeable in his deen, and who fears Allah swt ;)