Stop poking me... Stop pushing me

 

 

As Salaamu Alaikum All

OK so this blog some will agree and some won't... But I have to get this off my chest. I'm so tired of muslims not having good adhab on the web... It even urks me when they use quran, hadith or some kind of Fatwa as their backing.

When the men urinated in the mosque did the Prophet (SAW) put him on Blast? NO.. he took him aside and explained that's not what you're suppose to do in the mosque...

Are wen't we suppose to follow his way?

AKA- Pull a sister or brother aside and express or share....

That not only goes for offline but online too... Here on muslimspace there this link that's call "message"  Why can't we use it...

A sister the other day mention about a B-day and her family.... While most of us was supportive and saying sis to don't it on... sharing family probs too... or helping her calm down about that situation...

 

Why why why on keyboards did someone have to post  'I know I shouldn't say this but I'm going to anyways.Muslims aren't suppose to celebrate birthdays..."

Now lets stop and think... If the doubt comes in your head about whether to share or not share best bet...

Pull the person aside and express your thoughts... But it's just bad manners to go off in another angle...where the sister that written the blog had to stand up and explain that No she doesn't celebrate it but acknowledge it.

Some how... when I read her blog...it never came across that she was pulling out the Cake and the balloons... But to this person she felt like adding a fatwa link on the comment section explain why muslims shouldn't celebrate a birthday....

I mean really STOP Poking and Pushing each other....

I posted on another site different ways to wear the hijab... One sister was amped because she wanted to know

Why why why did this other sister going to leave a comment about "Muslims women shouldn't do this or that... and left a fatwa link"

I was going to delete it but I thought.. "Ok since you can't use the message section I will educate you and whom ever else that feel like sending me a link without looking into the whole picture.

I explain to her... Some muslimah have a hard time with the Hijab... So if a style of hijab can aid a non-hijabi in transforming into becoming a hijabi, then wearing it in one of the styles isn't wrong... The Prophet (SAW) said only the face and hands should show...( A Scholar didn't say this nor did a Fatwa author but the {Prophet SAW} did) and there were two women during the time of the Prophet (SAW) that woreGREEN andRED.... and the men are to lower their GAZE.... that's stated in Quran..

Also a muslims shouldn't wear purfume or bells  because that will cause attention... Furthermore I written- if a muslimahs is attractive... Then so be it... a Man still shouldn't gaze at her... even in Niqab- if too draws attention.... But as muslimahs we're doing what wer'e ordered to do...

Soooooooooooooo if a non hijabi has problems with the hijab or feel that its something she can't do based on what she sees... maybe different styles will help her on the jounery to become a hijabi....

And if anyone has ever tried to rock a style will learn that it take a lot of time. putting it together...

 I even share my story as to how I started wear the hijab... my mom bought a book on different styles- I thought they were cool... I rocked a few and one day I didn't feel like putting one together that I just wore my hijab plain as day... and that's when I transformed and became simple in the hijab...

I told you all about the other sister that put a muslim on Blast in front of everybody because the women didn't have a hijab...instead of saying "Oh sis I have one take it..." She and the woman got into an argument- The Women used her hoodie ( I believe) and the "Good Muslimah" was like "No you're pray isn't accepted... you didn't cover your hair the correct way" Now this was in front of people... and that made me think 'What was her reason in telling this women... " God knows it couldn't be to help her... because as a "Good muslims" that she tries to protray she would have taken her aside or offere her a hijab..

The Sunnah of the Prophet (SAW) pull a person aside and help them... Don't humilate them.

In the end the other person will automatically feel like they have to defend themselves... be it onlie or offline..

I am reminding myself first and then everyone else. Becuase I used to do that- and thought I was doing them a favor... But no it was the opposite... After reading the hadith on the Prophets (SAW) manners... I stopped because when I thought about  it- blasting or poking a muslim into a corner isn't the way to coming together...  Allahu Alim... I just had to get this off my chest... to many muslims are bickering and to many of us are poking our brothers and sisters without know the effect it can cause...

We all have different levels of Iman or faith when it comes to Islam... and So maybe some of us a weak... the strong ones shouldn't PUSH the weak ones down... Words hurt...or at least can get under skin more then a bruise... lets becareful in how we express ourselves in sharing knowldege