re:apology by jamilalove
156. Those Who say, when afflicted with calamity: "To Allah We belong, and to Him is our return":-
157. They are those on whom (Descend) blessings from Allah, and Mercy, and they are the ones that receive guidance.
It is permissible to cry up to three days after the death, but not permissible to yell or weep: The prophet Muhammad (S.A.W.) said: "Allah does not punish a person as a result of tears, or of the sorrow of the heart, but Allah punishes or bestows His mercy as a result of this." And the, prophet pointed to his tongue.The prophet Muhammad (S.A.W.) cried because of the death of his son, Ibrahim, and said:" The eye tears and the heart grieves, and we say nothing except what pleases our Lord, and we grieve as a result of your departure, Ibrahim."
"When the prophet went to visit the family of Jafar (R.A.) after his death he gave them three days to cry over Jafar's death, then he told them, after today do not cry anymore for my brethren."
It is forbidden to weep: Weeping means to yell or cry out loudly. Um-Atia (R.A.) said: "We took an oath before the messenger of Allah not to weep."
Also, the dead suffers from and dislikes his family's weeping. The prophet Muhammad (S.A.W.) said: "Whosoever is wept upon will suffer as a result of this weeping." (This is because the dead person can hear the crying).
It is permissible for the woman to mourn the death of her relative for three days: (Mourning includes giving up perfume, jewelry, Kuhl, etc.); it is forbidden for her to mourn for more than three days except if it was her husband in which case she has to mourn, at home, throughout the "Eddah" waiting period, which is four months and ten days.
The prophet Muhammad (S.A.W.) said: "The woman must not mourn for more than three days except for her husband where she must mourn for four months and ten days." the prophet Muhammad (S.A.W.) kissed Othman Bin Math'oon and cried for him until the tears wet his two cheeks when he died."
as salaamu alaykum to you and your family
jamilalove
1 year ago