AishaNZ
Sister, It is indeed a true article, But in my eyes you wrote very wrong --- You said "I fell in love with the beauty of Islam...but have also seen the ugly side of Islam as well " How ever I M 100 % sure there is nothing ugly side in Allah's Religion that is Islam. The ugly thing is due to us who r following it wrong but not in Islam.
I agree for rest of things.
Assalaam a lekum wr wb
May Allah Ease Your Frustration and Give you patience.
I agree with those who have said you have seen the "ugly Side" of people
who CLAIM they are following the
Deen Al haqu.
Particularly in the area Of marriage.
We have Oppressed ourselves out of marriage.
Ask any brother why he has no wife and
his answer is nearly always
"I have no bridal money to offer ".
SubhanAllah!! the term"bridal money"
itself indicates the problem.
The correct term is MAHR
and According to Sahih Hadith and the righteous scholars, the Mahr can be anything of value.
A man once came to the prophet (SAW)
to marry a woman
the prophet( SAW) asked if he had Mahr
the man Said "I have nothing"
the prophet said "search your house and find anything, even a ring of iron"
the man returned and said he did not find anything.
the prophet asked the man if he knew Quran and the man replied "yes"
the prophet Said" teach her the Quran as Mahr"
Today, May Allah Save us,
we only accept CASH as MAHR
and if you dont have the CASH (10, 20 , $30,000 etc) and a fancy College Degree
you get No Wife in dunyah... sorry "be patient"
and one wonders why so many brothers have secret girlfriends or marry the female of the Kuffar,
NOt to Excuse them but this is inevitable when WE make the Halal Difficult and the HARAM easy.
Many Families& Wali's have a thin Layer of Islam on the outside
but in issues of marriage & divorce they go right back to tribalism.
May Allah Guide us back to his Book of Guidance and the Sunnah of his last Messenger (PBUH)
Anabran Abdhul-Quarn
your bro in islam
mohammed
Salam Alaikum
What you have written is true....and its so so very sad....there are not enough words to condemn what fellow muslims are doing these days....its a disgrace...our sins and our attitude is the cause of our current Muslim affairs....we have lost all credibility.... the heart bleeds when such incidents happen....
but I would also like to remind my sisters that men also face such situations too....honestly how many of us have seen a religious man being appreciated....do muslim sisters really like a Allah-fearing man....I have seen good men not look good enough for some of the muslima sisters...they want handsome dashing men...some with lots of cash...some having issues with color or nationalilty...but no one really cares about true practicing muslim men...and plus some women are so hung up they dont want to go for second marriages...I am not saying that second marriages are the only solution but I am reminding that Allah gave the Ummah that option for a reason.
MAy Allah rectify our Affairs and remove all grief from us and Guide us to be real practising muslims....ameen
salaam sister aisha
i am also a revert alhumdulilah and i also fell in love with islam just like you
while i was reading your blog it was like you were taking the words right out of my heart because i have exactly same thoughts.
when i first reverted, islam was so beautiful (and still is)and the best thing that ever happened to me and i respected the qu'ran and the things it taught me i assumed that all muslims felt the same way that i did but then as the years passed i started hearing and seeing things that i just couldnt believe muslim brothers who cheat on there wives without a second thought, men who marry just to get someone to help aroung the house my sisters who where hjaabs with tight fitting clothes and short sleeve tops, walking down the street smoking a cigarett. even people who murder in the name of islam or because someone has shamed the family
???????
i was so confused how could they be doing these things is no one afraid of ALLAH swt , and does no one remember the ways of our beloved prophet MOHAMMAD p.b.u.h
i personaly think that islam has got mixed up with culture (ie forced mariages ect ect) that is'nt islamic infact that is'nt even allowed in islam
marshallah you are a good muslim sister and i pray to ALLAH that he gives everyone the strength to stick to the siraatal -mustakeem
salaam
frm sister aisha
Sis for this we need to do the same thing what was done 1400 years ago.Working hard in convincing the ummah.And remining them of theneves as who we were and now what we are.And most importantly crying in the last part of the night infront of Allah.Inshallah everything will be fine one day.
Jazakallah.
Soul-searching is a fundamental requirement in islam. The hadith says judge urself before you get judged. In other words, account for what you do before the day of account. I find this post very important. Back to the main theme: Like every other group or faith, we don't need the social scientist to tell us the idea of identity only makes sense from the outside, onec you come in you find that not all that glitter is gold. The muslim ummah is not one (unified in practising the teachings of Islam) in the real world. You find culture, nationality, orientation, race, tribes vain desires and all other isms and schisms within the house. In the days of the prophet (SAW) he also dwelled with hypocrites, the weak in faith, those who lagged behind, etc. I am not justifying the sickness within the ummah but even as we try to call to the righteous path of pure islam, we should also see things philosophically. otherwise anger and frustration will eat up the good part of our hearts. I have been to places like saudi arabia but I can tell you that ifind more respect and equality in a non-muslim country like UK better than in most parts of the so-called Muslim world. I found more polite human being in Japan than I find in many Muslim countires. Even our fundamental human right granted by the Quran to be treated with respect and spoken to nicely -remember Allah says to Moses to speak to Pharaoh with good words - is a culture that is lacking in Muslim attitude. My conclusion is I don't look at what Muslims are doing as example (because it's largely disappointing) but simply do as the Quran prescribe. And the rest is for Allah and the judgment day. "those who do good is for themselves and those who do evil will have it (as burden) on thier souls."